How do you deal with attachment to your gaming friends? I only have two friends and get attached.
I think my friends are special but know they don't feel the same about me, sometimes they'll play with other people or ignore me or not talk to me and it makes me sad.
Accept the fact your feeling will never be answered in kind. nobody other than your mommy will be attached to you
I ghost them.
Never invite furries to your chat group, I don't even want to talk to anybody anymore.
Don't make internet friends in the first place. Hell don't even talk to people on the internet at all, ever.
Do you just delete them randomly even if you've been friends for a long time?
Yeah. I've gone through like 4 discord accounts and countless steam IDs.
Why do you ghost them if you're getting attached? Is it so you don't have to deal with the feelings?
why are weebs (and trannies) so weak?
oh god this
it was fine when he was just into catgirls but now he has to be a part of the "furry community"
treat fetishes like fetishes and not a lifestyle
how old are you op?
I get attached but eventually I start feeling the same as OP, rejected and sad one way or another so I just do it. I do this IRL too btw.
Friends are not available all the time user, it doesn't mean they don't care, just that they have other friends too. I'm sure you are unique to them if they choose to spend time with you enough that you consider them friends.
It's probably just because they have more friends than you do, you seem to be somewhat lonely if you only have two friends, so of course you get attached to them. I wish I had advice for you. I've only got no friends that I do things with
>tfw the most well adjusted person in my friend group is a furry that actively seeks out furry communities
If you're actually looking for friends, I wouldn't mind if you wanted to contact me and we can see if we click at all.
I have a similar issue though. I actually value the people I keep around and I spend real time and mental/emotional energy on them, only to find out time and again that they don't feel or do the same.
Having any sort of empathy and actually trying to gain new friendships can be extremely difficult.
Might have borderline personality disorder, OP. Go talk to a shrink and maybe you can live the dream with autismbux
I just turned 20 a few weeks ago.
They're definitely available. I see them online, or playing games, they don't ask me to play or even talk to me unless I say something first. It seems like they would rather play with others, it does feel like rejection.
How can we message?
Why do you say that
>Why do you say that
Intense fear of abandonment is the central defining characteristic of the disorder. Add any flavor of self-destructive behavior and the diagnosis is pretty much guaranteed
>How can we message?
I strongly prefer Discord. It's pretty much the only source of instant messaging that I constantly have open.
I'm a poor piratefag so it's rare that I have steam open.
Athetia#7108
In my case it's a fucking homosexual furry who does notching but complain about literally everything, I don't even know why he doesn't leave. I lost my motivation on Internet friends.
Disregard this user, he doesn't know what he's talking about.
Take my advice, user. Don't play couch therapist unless you actually know psychology and have experience to back it up. All you're serving to do is making OP feel like there's something actually wrong with them, when it could just be that they're lonely and think of relationships a little different than most people.
Self destructive behavior is also normal for those who have low self image, which, having no friendships or being lonely can do that as a natural side effect. Ontop of that, self destructive behavior is not actually part of the criteria for BPD as of the fifth edition of the DSM, the psyche nerds diagnostic bible.
Are you a good listener?
Protip for all you clingy cunts out there. Stop actively sabotaging your relationships by forcing yourself on to other people who just need a little space. If you can give people time and respect their boundaries they will usually come around and let you in closer. When you start acting clingy it only drives them away further.
Disregard this user he's a gay
I only play with my irl friends
why would I give a fuck about becoming friends with some stranger online, I barely even play multiplayer games to begin with and when I do getting put with random people every game is sufficient enough
Yes
It says I can't add you, I made an account it's "kay#0159"
I don't have "gaming friends"
normalfag
I only have 2 irl friends, multiplayer games just dont entertain me much[/spoiler[
How attached are you getting? Only get as attached as they make themselves clear they're willing to be.
Jesus Christ what is wrong with the Discord devs.
It's what every corporate trash is doing, to pass as cool and hip while they get your data and money.
Tbh, thats not them being a furry, just a faggot. Not every furry joins voice chat and makes dog noises because it gets them horny.
Just most of them.
I play with a bunch of people, I once mentioned that I dont view many of them as friends and everyone shit on me for it. Things like that just mean more to some people than others.
I got a little to close with a discord firend. I conffesd i liked them. In the end it disnt work out. Im part of a discord group with him but im planning on leaving them soon. Gonna start firesh and not be so damn clingy. I just get so invested in people easliy
Been there, its pretty fucking shitty.
huh well I dunno then. I was going to say I have done what your friends do to you but only because I've had people who want to do nothing but dump their problems on me and never actually converse. maybe you just have to branch out more
Lets say you have been diagnosed with terminal cancer and know you'll be gone in a few months, what would be the best way to handle it for the few meaningful friendships you've made? Tell them about it? Not say a thing? Make them hate you so they won't feel a thing from your absence?
I get attached to everyone I value, it's fucking gay because these straight ass bitches keep making moves on me. Shit gets awkward after they realise ''oh wait I'm not actually a faggot lol''. WHY DOES THIS KEEP HAPPENING I JUST WANT O BE A SUPPORTIVE FRIEND
Tell them
Sounds like you've already dealt with it because you yourself recognize that your feelings and behaviors are irrational
So your question essentially comes down to "how do I not feel sad" and there isn't an answer to that question
>Thinking that you're a good example of how people should act when you refer to someone who often asks you to hang out as a "clingy cunt"
Don't listen to this retard. These are the same people who act all selective about who's clingy and who's not. What they say only applies if you're dealing with a literal fucking mountain man who desperately attempts to stay alone. The kind of people who call you clingy are the kind of people with tons of friends and plenty of other shit to do who can literally chose which of their 50 buds they're gaming with tonight while excluding you just because they feel like it. They're cunts that actually don't deserve your attention whatsoever, so you're doing both of you a favor by just dropping their dumb ass.
>sometimes they'll play with other people or ignore me or not talk to me and it makes me sad
Hey OP you're literally me except "sometimes" is "pretty much all the time" because I'm a social retard, makes me feel bad because it's like I'm trying to monopolize a person just because they're my only friend and we have no other friends on common.
Well at this rate I won't have even that friend left for long anyway, maybe it's for the better. Maybe the despair of being alone will finally motivate me to make friends or kill myself.
Hey I feel that way and I lived these situations too, don't kill yourself, sometimes it's hard to not give in to the temptation of an "easy way out" but it'll eventually get better, you can get through this I believe in you user.
not very. i unfriend people once they get annoying
Is that wrong? I think when people make me feel good I sometimes can get too comfortable and say weird gay shit
same, op's issue is something I've been having issues with my whole life. I very rarely get attached to people but when I do I often realise later that it's way more one sided than I initially thought. I don't talk to anyone anymore, just busy myself with my 40k painting and browsing Yea Forums.
It just depends on the person. An internet friend is in a different category from a "real" friend to me. It's nothing personal, you just don't really exist until I've met you.
I don't really have any IRL friends anymore so I actually worry about how my internet friends view me a lot now, even guys I've just been playing games with for a short time or something.
Don't get attached and stop being so clingy. That simple.
It wasn't just comments, they all physically came on to me in the end. At least I have one friend left who isn't starved of sex and is chill.
I’d say I get attached to my friends, but at the end of the day you have to remember they could disappear at the drop of a hat and I doubt they care about me in the same way.
Also, I want to have safe, loving, consensual sex with Komi.
That's a really mean point of view user.
Lucky you.
Seems that you found one of the outliers.
As for you anons, I feel you. I was nice to some of those guys in college, in part because I always felt the flack furies got online was unfair.
Five years later, they both turn out to be pedophiles. And they act like I'm in the wrong for being disgusted by this. And they also hate women and minorities, and would describe their sexual diaper-proclivities to me in livid detail whenever they weren't ranting about racial superiority. After a certain point, I couldn't take it any more.
I could have made real friends in college, but I stuck around those guys because I thought they were also part of the "internet crowd." I thought we were kindred spirits. Now it's too late. I haven't talked to them in a while since they finally started bringing up "the Jewish question."
Sorry dude. I'm sure there's more like me though. I have online friends but they're second class citizens for sure.