How do you justify a buying new console to your wife or partner, Yea Forums?
Every time a new PS or Xbox releases, I have to prepare a well argumented business case for my wife, explain why I need to buy it, what money I'll get from selling the previous console, how happy it'll make the kids, etc, etc...It takes days or even weeks to get a final GO from the misses.
I realize that if I did not have my wife I would have a lot more cool stuff and games than I have now. But I would also have crippling credit card debt, no savings, constant depression and would not be in the process of buying a home right now.
There's some give and take with marriage and shared finances but it's for the best.
My wife and kids make my life exciting and I love them for it. I can live with some compromises like asking for permission to buy expensive things as long as they bring me happiness.
Nolan Flores
Are you sure it's your wife and not your mother?
Jordan Torres
Of course
Ethan Bell
what kind of fucked up couple are you in if you can't even buy things you like without writing an essay for your wife ?
>wife or partner what >selling the previous console What? >the kids WHAT? >marriage and shared finances WHAT THE FUCK??
Luke Reyes
We share finances but it's mostly missus who handles most of the finance stuff so I have to ask her before buying something expensive or she'll see that there's money missing. That's how most marriages work, user.
Dylan Flores
Stay single forever anons so you don't have to deal with shit like the op
Adrian Gomez
Do you not have your own money? I'm not married but I live with my gf and we share an account for bills, groceries, etc... We each still have our own money though.
Jayden King
and what about your wife, does she asks for your opinion when she buys expansive stuff ? if it's the case then fair enough
Tyler Diaz
Not much. She asked for my bank account details and credit card so she could watch over our finances and make sure I don't blow it all on some stupid thing.
Yes. Sometimes.
Andrew Brooks
Spotted the wizard
Asher Brooks
To be more precise she says she's going to buy something and I let her, no need to convince me. As long as it makes her happy I'm all for it.
Ethan Ward
If you can’t think of a good enough argument to buy the console on your own, you don’t need the console. Also, Yea Forums is populated entirely by underage teens, so it’s useless to ask about stuff pertaining to marriage here.
you're pathetic my dude, and your wife probably thinks the same. she simply doesn't want you to spend the money she'll eventually get from you when you catch her in bed with tyrone.
Jayden Hughes
Yeah what the op described sounds like fun. I love not being able to do what I want with the money I earn
Zachary Morgan
>She asked for my bank account details and credit card so she could watch over our finances
Any marriage that doesn't have this setup+a prenup is doomed to fail and bankrupt the male
Camden Ortiz
Me and my wife's wages go into our joint account that all our bills come out of. We have set up automatic transactions that transfer each of us an equal smaller amount that goes into our own personal accounts which we can spend on what we want.
My partner wants me to be happy, not control me, so no explanation needed.
Kayden Nguyen
OP you seriously fucked up, I'm not even joking or being ironic. Don't ever let someone else have control over your life like that. It's a form of manipulation and abuse. I learned the hard way not to do that. Start a private account that she doesn't know about and save some money and DON'T SPEND IT, it doesn't have to be a lot and she shouldn't notice you doing it. You should have some backup emergency funds no one knows about in case shit hits the fan and you need money ASAP
Honestly if you're in a financial bind you should not be buying video games or consoles. Me and my wife both have jobs and we split our bills into a fair 50/50 pool, what is left over is split in another 50/50 pool between the both of us. Shit works out really well, if I can't afford something theb I can A: save my money or B: work overtime to get it.
Matthew Johnson
I get a free console every two years free with my new mobile phone contract. I don't buy them
Christian Clark
Low T for sure
Tyler Martin
Pretty much at the very start of my relationship I said to my gf that each of us has a certain amount of money each month for ourselves and the rest goes into our bank account. Both of us never had a problem with that rule and we never got in a fight over it. Just adjust it to your salary and ask your wife about it.
Owen Sullivan
>tfw I was almost in a similar situation to OP >Fiancé started to question my purchasing decisions while getting annoyed when I questioned her's >it was always my money >she wanted a kid >the thought of spending the rest of my life with a person like that started to make me seriously depressed. >eventually told her to get lost. That was 10+ years ago and today, looking at my """""""happily""""""" married friends and hearing their constant stories, I'm glad I made the decision I made. OP is a massive cuck and its too late for him now. Thankfully, it's only bait.
>Your wife runs the finances and you have to ask for her permission HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. fuck. you're such a cuck. I bet she makes more money than you do.
Carter Cox
>married to somebody I love >she loves vidya >we both spend on it equally >we also have our own money and don't question what the other wants to spend it on
Why would you guys get with somebody who isn't interested in, or at the very least, doesn't actively hate your hobbies?
Jason Torres
Ever hear of the idea that you should marry someone who possesses virtues you lack?
Jose Torres
Wouldn't any woman alive get fucking assblasted over suggestion of a prenup?
Jackson Scott
We each have our own PC because we are not consolefags.
Marry someone that loves and supports your interests Jesus Christ a few hundred dollar console is nothing compared to how expensive any new instrument is, season tickets, or hell a night out drinking can easily be more expensive than a videogame
You shouldn't have to DEFEND your interests
Brayden Collins
It is against human nature to be happy with a partner that plays video games.
Oliver Carter
>How do you justify a buying new console to your wife or partner I earn the money so I spend it on what I want. I make fun of other men that let their spouse or significant other control their hobbies
Jace Torres
>dude if i make her mad, she won’t give me sex! That’s the case 99% of the time.
Noah Howard
What an embarrassing post. Why don't you ask her boyfriend ?
Thomas Campbell
dick?
Nathan Johnson
If she can do that you already fucked up.
Aaron Allen
if you had any experience with modern relationships, people now will leave you for the smallest reasons
Ian Nguyen
Yeah that's true
Jack Taylor
whose this lad?
Leo White
I go buy it she asks if I bought something I say yes she says I shouldn’t have I shrug and go play video games.
Angel Harris
Yeah I know, my ex literally forbid me for listening to certain bands/artists. Women can be pathetically insecure.
Michael Turner
>he thinks consoles are expensive Your children are exponentially more expensive than a fucking game console thats released every few years. Either you're retarded with your money or you're poor as fuck and shouldn't have had children.
Charles Howard
I don’t have a very hard time with it, I rarely make those kinds of purchases as it is; I don’t do mid gen upgrades or anything of that sort.
I also use my own money for that kind of thing. If I want it, I’m going to get it. We both know that. She’s just way better with money than I am in general, so even if I’m using my own money, I tend to run a lot of shit by her. I’d be broke in a second if she wasn’t so good at talking me out of the stupid shit I’d buy.
Adrian Evans
>modern relationships People have always dumped each other for petty bullshit, assholes are nothing new in the grand scheme of things. There are plenty of people who are willing to commit, compromise, and support you, you just aren't attractive to them.
Lucas Phillips
So here's an actual reply to your post.
If you have the money, there shouldn't be an argument about purchasing anything. Going into the relationship, she needs to know that Video Games are your hobby. You also need to understand she has hobbies too and will also spend money.
If you're going to buy a home, be forewarned, that shit is expensive. I've owned my home for almost 5 years now. In the last two months I have spent 6k on: New gutters (plus new crown molding for the gutters to attach to), mini-kitchen remodel, new oven & microwave/ hood, new insulation. That doesn't include pavers I bought to build a grilling/patio area nor the plants for my wife's garden. (Also car repair too!)
If she is fighting you on the console, there's probably a good reason why. I handle the finances and while I hardly ever tell my wife, "No, we can't afford XYZ". If she were to ask to spend 1k on something for her hobby right now, I'd tell her to wait a month or two.
it's all about making sound, financial decisions. Ask to see what the finances look like and understand her point of view as the money person.
I never knew how expensive and time consuming houses were until I got older and became the man of the house. Jesus everything is always fucking breaking, there's always some maintenance that needs to be done, always something that needs to be cleaned, it never ends.
Thomas Price
We keep our bank accounts separate so we don't have to justify each other what the fuck we buy for ourselves.
Joshua Gomez
There's always something to do! It makes it kinda exciting and fun unless it's something you aren't able to fix yourself. Then it's just stupidly expensive.
Lincoln Rivera
I do not need to justify such a thing and if she complains I beat her.
Luke Nguyen
Why? I have my own money, she has her own money and we each put in money for stuff so one of us doesn't end up buying everything themselves.
Matthew Hughes
I justify it by saying it's my disposable income, we put in enough for savings to cover most tragedies or unforeseen circumstances, and the point of working a job with disposable income is to spend it
Charles Fisher
Stop hogging all the red pills, stupid crap idiot!
Isaiah Nguyen
It's fun for me but that's because I don't have a full time job yet. If I had to work over 40 hours a week, feed a family and raise kids, and constantly do home repair stuff on top of that, it would be infuriating.
Dominic Torres
It's your hobby. She should know that. My ex-wife would buy me games all the time. Bought me a PS3 without me even asking, and not on a special occasion either.
Nathan Wright
bros i only have 3k out of uni
Ryder Russell
That's more than the average university graduate. Congrats.
Colton Rodriguez
thats terrifying, but i guess theres hope for me then?
Easton Hernandez
Okay, I'm genuinely sad about the OP. I thought it was just another bait topic, but he seems to be just a simple guy with little money who wants to play games from time to time. But he is poor, lives in a simple tiny house with an equally poor woman who needs to control every penny because she knows that OP will make some stupid decision that will make his two or more children go to the school without breakfast. And the children must have the worst neighborhood toys and are rejected by school friends because they do not have proper hygiene and pass lice to others.
Evan Rivera
Just get a nice PC and you're set for potentially up to a decade if you invest up front. Stop being such a cuck and buy what you want.
Camden Johnson
Some of my married friends have entertainment funds. They set aside some money every month so that when they want to buy a new rig or a console, they don't have a sudden depletion in finances.
Alexander Sanders
>not wanting a second mommy
Elijah Robinson
Depends on what you do. Consider the actions you take and the resulting consequences. You can't 100% predict everything, but you can guide your life in a direction with some sort of certainty. Good luck.
Brandon Thomas
>How do you justify a buying new console to your wife or partner If you need to do that, i think you have worse problems than choosing wich console to buy. In any case, just buy a PC and use the classic excuse of 'it's for working and watching movies'
Daniel Sanders
>Not marrying a gamer or techie who appreciates your love for Vidya
Come on user, dieing alone is better than dealing with her shitting in what you love.
