The main idea behind this book is that women are not oppressed by men but rather control men to their advantage.
The book argues that, contrary to common feminist and women's rights rhetoric, women in industrialized cultures are not oppressed, but rather exploit a well-established system of manipulating men.
Vilar writes, "Men have been trained and conditioned by women, not unlike the way Pavlov conditioned his dogs, into becoming their slaves. As compensation for their labours men are given periodic use of a woman's vagina." The book contends that young boys are encouraged to associate their masculinity with their ability to be sexually intimate with a woman, and that a woman can control a man by socially empowering herself to be the gate-keeper to his sense of masculinity. Vilar states that this has been going on for some time.
The author says that social definitions and norms, such as the idea that women are weak, are constructed by women with their needs in mind. Vilar explains how it works: if women are viewed as weak, less is expected of them; and therefore they are given more leeway in society than men. Vilar states that women are generally "gold diggers" who attempt to extract money and other material resources from men. One means by which women control men to effect this transfer of resources is praise. Women dole out praise to men only when their needs are met in some way.
Another means of manipulation is the calculated use of emotional displays. Vilar claims that women can control their emotional reactions whereas men cannot, and that women create overly-dramatized emotional reactions to get their way: they "blackmail" men emotionally. Women also use sex as a tool of manipulation and control but also traditional concepts of love and romance, which are seen more positively than sex, to control men's sexual lives. Vilar writes that men gain nothing from marriage and that women coerce them into it under the pretense that it fulfills their romantic desires.
The book closes with Vilar stating that it would be difficult to change the situation by appealing to women, as women are unsympathetic to the plight of men, and unwilling to give up their comfortable position in society. It is up to men to see past the deception and emotional blackmail and subject it to open criticism before any meaningful changes can occur.
One man learns, 50 boys are born fir single mommies
Ian Stewart
but i love my gf
Colton Walker
Post her feet
Wyatt Cooper
Should have read this before I ended up in in exploitative and cucked relationship for 3 years, but at least I’m aware of the vaginal jew now and won’t fall for it again. It’s hard to imagine that those seemingly lovable creatures are in fact ruthless manipulators playing you like a fiddle until you experience their devilry firsthand.
Bentley Morris
Even if you read it before, you would probably think that your case was different and it wasn't happening to you, so don't think to much about it.
Juan Torres
Have sex, incel.
John Perez
Yes, you’re right.
Dominic Reyes
how do i coerce a girl into accepting a totally patriarchical relationship? or rather, what are the qualifications necessary for this? i am already planning to start practices for self mastery (probably basic buddhism) as well as join the military (not US)
>The book contends that young boys are encouraged to associate their masculinity with their ability to be sexually intimate with a woman, and that a woman can control a man by socially empowering herself to be the gate-keeper to his sense of masculinity. Pure fax
Most men nowadays are little bitches desperate for female validation, their entire existence revolves around pussy. Look what happens the moment you're not worshipping women, the go-to insult of the simp, is always something along the lines of "i bet you can't have sex, incel". The simp projects his own insecurities in this: Men whose lives revolve around pussy have no self-esteem of their own, they only have any sense of self-worth when they're being validated by women, thus they assume all other men are the same way, and that to tell another man he doesn't/can't get laid is the ultimate insult.
To the simp, whose entire motivation for living is already consumed by his porn addiction and thirst for female validation, it's entirely inconceivable that there are men out there who live for any purpose but pussy, to even admit such a thing is possible would be a huge blow to his ego, as he'd be faced with the reality of his own pathetic subservience. A man who appears to be in control of his primal nature CANNOT be sincere and healthy, there must be something wrong with him: He must be low T, he must be misogynistic, he must be unattractive, anything but admitting that perhaps there is anything to life outside cooming.
Otto Weininger said something similar. You don't, first of all patriarchy is usually done for the favor of women, to protect and shield them. Second, there's no reason for women to accept a situation where they have less power.
Ryder Jackson
Vilar is Jewish
Brandon Gomez
>Men have been trained and conditioned by women, not unlike the way Pavlov conditioned his dogs, into becoming their slaves. As compensation for their labours men are given periodic use of a woman's vagina I can't stand this cynicism. Whatever issues there are in the relations between the sexes in the modern day, you cannot simply boil down the whole history of male-female love to a cynical, material self-interest on the part of women. It's just an obviously absurd and simplistic analysis.
Obviously, men in charge of everything by design, but they desire women, therefore women control men. That's why domestic abuse and martial 'rape' shouldn't be illegal, because it balances the scales. Even women know that, which is why they go back to abusive men. They know they deserve to get hit sometimes, they know they're withholding sex on purpose and so on.
Zachary Garcia
>incel "My only value is what is between my legs, and if I as much think rationally, I'll accuse you of rape."
Julian Morales
Why should men not seek the benefits of weather or not a marriage is right for them?
Nathan Howard
Yeah, cause men are the greatest enforcers. Look at the board culture right now. Say anything negative about women = have sex. That's exactly what Vilar is describing. White knighting, male feminists, simps, etc. The lock and key analogy is exactly what she's describing.
Camden Morales
>implying women are capable of such large scale, long term efforts Women get easy mode because most men become retarded when pussy is nearby, simple as.
Zachary Cooper
I'll be reading it soon, anything I should know before diving in?
I haven't even read it, you can figure this out on your own of course. Like the lock and key thing, obviously if it's bad for women to be promiscuous then it can't simultaneously be a virtue for men to be promiscuous and make sluts out of as many women as possible. Our culture is topsy turvy with regards to this, and it's fuelled simply by male enslavement to lust. It's men enforcing the female standards Vilar is describing. You don't really need to understand much else because everything stems from that.
Noah Clark
>it can't simultaneously be a virtue for men to be promiscuous and make sluts out of as many women as possible.
Holy shit, how is it that I have never seen this major flaw in that analogy? That completely turns that stupid metaphor into a paradox lol. My mind has actually been blown by this.
I subscribed to that form of thought in my early 20s until finally getting a decent enough girlfriend to make me realize that it wasn’t sexual conquest that I sought, but a meaningfully intimate connection with someone I could trust. The relationship didn’t last but it completely validated all of the suspicions I had about what a load of BULLSHIT the peer pressure associated with being promiscuous really is. A friend of mine and I were actually discussing this at length some time ago, and although he and I are [sort of] on the same page, he’s not convinced that, universally, men and women who engage in promiscuity are damaged people who are actively hurting themselves.
Anyway— sorry for rambling, it’s just that I can’t believe I never saw what an obvious paradox that “lock and key” shit really is. Thanks for that, user. Glad I browsed Yea Forums today
Wyatt Brown
>Another means of manipulation is the calculated use of emotional displays. Vilar claims that women can control their emotional reactions whereas men cannot It’s literally the opposite. Women are more emotional then men. Not always a bad thing but true nonetheless >Vilar writes that men gain nothing from marriage and that women coerce them into it under the pretense that it fulfills their romantic desires. Does it not thought? You gain a lover for life and a family. Even if I’m wrong this is definitely an extremely American way of looking at things. There’s definitely gains in marriage. In other societies the women are supposed to be the perfect housewives and such and such. Produce and care for many children.
Nolan Price
All of them?
Benjamin Adams
I agree with this. Even if a lot of what the OP points out seems pretty legit, the idea that men gain nothing in marriage is pretty absurd. It’s value transcends time and culture; only someone truly bitter would subscribe to this idea.
Adrian Evans
I think it got mixed up together with old instincts to "sow your wild oats" or have a harem or many wives. Same reason modern women do a lot of self destructive things they do, like obsesessively attention whoring, there's old instincts at play that were beneficial a long time ago or can be. It's good to have a choice of many partners if you choose the best one. It's good to breed lots of women if you're capable of supporting them all and keeping the family stable. But who is capable of doing that? We're not in the stone age. There's just a thousand ways it could go wrong, and almost any of them have to do with overmastering desire.
William Sullivan
>men gain nothing from marriage laughably wrong, don't marry someone useless
Carson Gray
>“What a misfortune to be a woman! And yet, the worst misfortune is not to understand what a misfortune it is.” Imagine him studying evolutionary psychology and biology!
>laughably wrong Gain what then? Don't give them that advice if you're not a westerner. It's bad for them.
Andrew Bell
Based Rev. 17 Yes, and a guide would help
Camden Williams
>Women are more emotional then men. You're an idiot who doesn't pay attention. When a woman is outraged emotionally, she does so with sudden provocation (and I want to emphasize that word in particular). When a woman has perfect cause to spark up in outrage, she remains silent.
Joseph Butler
>Become gay. Men are even more insufferable to be around than women.
Christopher Powell
shush faggot, you're not a man that's why you feel repulsed because you cannot take banter since you're effeminate.
Thomas Bennett
To be fair, on this website it’s hard to know when someone is being ironic about becoming a homosexual.
Parker Foster
And you're a pederast incel.
Cooper Smith
>my idea of manliness is performatives
Colton Thompson
Is there any way to get a physical copy of this book...? Swear to god, seems like it's nowhere. Also is the same user making these threads? I've seen like 3 or 4 about them lately.
Aiden Cook
Everything is ironic. Any one who takes anything from here blindly, is autistic.
Not into poo... thanks It's easy and normal to separate between "sexual desires" and camaraderie. You can't distinguish between the two because , as I said, you're effeminates, you see men as "sexual targets" but your instincts are still of males. That's how you get these mixed feeling. Clean your lenses faggot.
Jackson Morris
>50 boys are born fir single mommies And that need not be a bad thing. For it is this precise demographic which has the decision in their hands; whether they want stagnation in inter-sexual-political matters, or much needed CHANGE. Think of how powerful the apu-pepe meme character (pic related) has become in recent years; he embodies the jester-infant, the clown child. Others have merely adopted female insanity, he was molded in it, formed by it... immunized to it? Will he rise? Or perish like a dog?
You will never come close to resembling the virtue you tout.
You are the simulacrum of a "real manly man", the glasses wearing basedboy on tiktok immersed deeply in the "subculture" of BBQ grilling.
You're just a pathetic faggot.
Joshua Nelson
There's no "sexist statements about women" Yea Forums chart. Read Plato's Republic. Or Aristotle's Politics III - all variations of the same thing. (Aristotle also said only fair-skinned women could orgasm kek) Cicero on women's place in politics in The Laws. Aquinas. Goethe. Mind you, these philosophers mostly spoke of women in an objective manner of mild scorn as opposed to Schopie being the obvious outlier. It's interesting to see how this is opposed to today's rhetoric fueled by seething at women's liberation manifesting itself in painfully extreme ways due to dating apps, social media, etc. They knew the nature of women, but never saw a world where they never saw a post-60's world could exert full control in almost every domain.
Evan Robinson
It's been out of print for decades. You can probably get an expensive used copy from Amazon.
Impossible in current year unless you live somewhere disconnected from the outside world
Chase Phillips
This misses the point of the text. Villar was a feminist and she was arguing that women fully participating equally in the workforce and economy as equals to men would be to the benefit of men by reducing the need of women to manipulate resources out of them. Why does everyone totally ignore that part of her thesis?
Nathan Sanchez
That’s still pretty idealistic thinking. Women’s preference in men doesn’t change just because they’re in the workforce— they still are much more statistically likely to favor a partner of either similar or higher social rank than men, who are statistically much, MUCH less picky about social rank.
This ironically makes it more difficult for women with high level careers to find ideal mates, as their pool of ideal candidates has diminished whereas the high level male’s pool has remained largely the same, if not grown due to his renowned status.
Thus, women will still be forced to compete bitterly for an ideal mate, and the same fundamental tactics of resource hoarding as before will still be utilized but in different ways.
Justin Ward
>women fully participating equally in the workforce and economy as equals to men would be to the benefit of men wow! that's stupid and short-sighted
Samuel Brown
Oh man, women will be forced to date DOWN, oh the humanity!
I don’t think they’ll do it, user, at least not without putting up one hell of a fight. It goes against their nature to date down. Hell, we Westerners are living in a society where men and women are pretty much treated as equals and yet our women STILL refuse to date down.
