What books will help me stop being an autistic shut in and get a life and frens...

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user, honestly: Consider joining a church. Shop around a little. If you find one that you like, or at least don't find threatening, meet with the pastor and tell him what you've told us, especially that you don't have friends and don't know how to make them, then follow his guidence. Church won't be an immediate panacea, but stick with it, even if at times you feel discouraged. Over time your life will get better and better. And much love, user.

I grew up Orthodox Christian and now reject that. Now some sort of atheist. Still go to church because I am a sperg autist dependent on my mother and she doesn't want to hear that shit. Anyway I don't care about church and am usually bored in there. The things they say are usually cookie cutter bullshit that you hear everywhere.

user I don't know what to tell you besides that you are an unlucky person
Same situation, I never leave home, I never go out, I am a long haired kid with an angry face, my classmates think Im rude, but in the end I made 2 or 3 friends out of sheer luck
Life is not about practice or improvement or "alpha beta" mentality, its about lucky people and unlucky people
In the end, maybe fortune will appear overtime, or this is your doom and I wish you the best
I am hoping for the early hypothesis

do you speak up in class? ever talk to any bros from class? you probably need to work towards friendship with other men before you're going to be ready for the absolute wreck of a minefield that is the woman.

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tldr

just scroll to the conclusion like a good normie. If you find it at all persuasive, you might decide read more of it

just give me a tldr im not reading tumblr lol

Nobody really knows how to do anything at first. You try once, adjust your methods as necessary, then try again. If you want to "grow up," you have to seperate yourself from your mother.

That blog is by TheLastPsychiatrist, him posting on tumblr is kinda the point.

Basically, you can not truly IMPROOV yourself because your mind can only hold like 1 and a half heuristics simultaneously to guide behavior. Instead, he suggests to commit to your nearest recognizable social prototype, and act accordingly. People are more likely to warm up to you easily, invite you around, talk to others about you, when they can kind of "summarize" you easily. When they feel they "get" you.

If that last part sounds retarded, it was just my own interpretation of why it works, sorry for ruining it. In reality he says that it's the effortlessness of your behaviors that imitation, rather than IMPROOVING, allows that enables others to "click" and feel at ease around you. Worth bookmarking if you're not going to read. TLP is top tier.

> 0 friends, have zero work experience, never traveled, never gone out except for class and to go to the gym, never had sex,

Why do you think you so desperately need those things? Because society tells you to? Is this what your happiness hinges on, other people telling you how you should be?

You don't need to be social to be happy, you don't need to conform - you don't need to serve anybody else, but yourself. Stop caring what others think, it doesn't matter. If you are a normie, and absolutely need to have friends - go ahead, go to therapy or something, do strategies where you meet new people.

However, this is not the only path in life. Some people are perfectly content on their own, they have their own rich inner life that is vastly superior to any social circle. Why? Perhaps there is something that they desperately need to do, they have goals, passions. You have no idea how amazing being by yourself can be.

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don't turn into this guy OP, the cope only lasts so long

idk about him, but christian groups are probably the easiest to become part of if you have no basis with anyone else.

Serial shitposting is truly the richest inner life

Don't listen to this guy OP, he's a faggot. I thought this way until I hit my mid 20s and then I realized I hated myself and was miserable.

You NEED a job, you need a greater purpose in life. The key to having a social life is to have a bunch of superficial friends. You might think, "Oh, all I want are just a few choice friends that really understand me," but I'm telling you, the only way you'll get that is by being generally talkative and interesting to other people.

All of my best friends today came from me enthusiastically talking about some stupid subject (e.g. why tragedy is impossible to tell in a video game) and them becoming more interested in me as a person as a result.

If you're super terrible at talking to people like I was, go do speech and debate. It helped me a lot. Other people I know have benefited from therapy. Do something that will force you out of your shell. You literally cannot have a social life unless you go out and talk to random people.

Your "rich inner life" will not sustain you over a lifetime. Eventually, you'll get frustrated and you'll want to blow your brains out unless you have a greater goal in life.

t. normies, who once thought they were special, but realized they have no higher calling in life, and proceeded to integrate into the vast faceless crowd of nobodies

>why tragedy is impossible to tell in a video games
why is it

this, that guy obviously never played life is strange

I was thinking of going to therapy but how will that actually help me out?

>normies
Man I WISH I were a normie. Being a normie sounds amazing. I wish I could get married like the rest of my friends. I wish I could be happy doing a job I love. I still spend most of my time alone, it's just I do have the occasional friend over and it keeps me from wanting to blow my brains out.

My thesis was great tragedies require a tragically flawed character. In the context of video game, the problem is the main character is the player and the player will minmax, preventing them from acting in a tragically flawed way.

The games that do successfully manage to do this (like Bioshock, Planescape: Torment, etc) rely on a trick. They hide crucial information about the main character from the player. Now this is a very nice trick that gets around the problem, but you can only do it so often before it gets old.

I have never played Life is Tumblr.

It'll help you gather your thoughts, realize what you want, what your problems are, and how you could work on them.
On the other hand, you have to be really in control in therapy. Comfortable with yourself, do not lie, but also do not be a puppet of your therapist. Basically, you have to do all the work yourself, but you don't know what that work might be yet.

The concept of "friends," does not exist in modern life. TV lives are fake. No adult goes out to a bar to meet friends every weekend. It's all a scheme to get you to spend more money because you don't have the ideal life they are trying to sell you which doesn't exist.

>integrate into the vast faceless crowd of nobodies
what's the alternative? apart from death and being elon musk

cope

>the player will minmax, preventing them from acting in a tragically flawed way.
lol, that's idiotic - player's stats are just physical attributes. It's their choices that matter. This is an archaic definition anyway, and artificial.
Tragedy isn't just getting a bad ending - it's being incapable of getting the good one. I'd say even katawa shoujo would enable you the experience tragedy. The real tragedy is the bottomless divide between your life, and what is on screen.

>The real tragedy is the bottomless divide between your life, and what is on screen.
that really hits home fren

>You don't need to be social to be happy
Happiness is a spontaneous emotion. Without other people, from where would new stimuli arise?

good advice

>integrate into the vast faceless crowd
Faceless indeed, until you find some worth friending, which is what OP specifically asked for. See: It is expensive and a huge investment, but ultimately worth it. Better to give yourself a year or two to sort shit out on your own before deciding if your life actually "requires" treatment

Friends are just those we are familiar with, that we trust to an extent. You're right that it's not as ideal as TV portrays it, but wrong to make a strict black/white out of it. It is possible to believe too much in the portrayal, that when you notice the shortcomings in unstaged reality, you grow resentful and withdraw. Notes from Underground wasn't written to champion the Underground Man.

Minmax as in make choices that avoid the tragic ones. Think Mass Effect. The vast majority of players went full paragon and many of them did the grind to reconcile the Geth and the Quarians.

When I think about how I play video games personally, I never let my players die in Fire Emblem. This is what I mean. People will search for the optimal path.

The whole point of a tragedy is the fact that people are weak and end up choosing the less than optimal path. They choose the short term over the long term due their blindness and end up suffering as a result. Think King Lear and how he snubbed the only daughter who loved him. That would never happen in a game that allows for player choice. Everyone would watch their favorite streamer pick Cordelia every time, defeating the purpose of the story.

Not him, but I read that some time ago. He's seriously underestimating the ease of acting. I also notice people do that and find it irritating. Basically, I don't to put in work to get a different set of bodily sensations, when I already accept the ones I get.

How did you know you hated yourself and where miserable?

New stimuli are constantly arising. Get in touch with your body.

> Notes from Underground wasn't written to champion the Underground Man.

It also wasn't written to champion the clique he tried to hang with.

>underestimating the ease of acting
He's not suggesting to git gud at acting, literally just commit to the things you're already unconsciously imitating, and be more cohesive about it (stop borrowing from too-disparate influences)

>I also notice people do that and find it irritating
Normies don't, and they have a monopoly on social capital and accompanying bennies. Choose wisely, but choose deliberately and honestly.

>Basically, I don't to put in work
rephrase?

Yes, stimuli register internally. But the catalyst is external, and the too-familiar eventually fails to deliver.

>Get in touch with your body.
no u

Excuses, now this guy has 'em!

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You are a sense chaser. That's fine, I'm going to assume you don't take it very seriously, which is ultimately the critical component. Everything goes wrong when you take life seriously.

> He thinks Dosto is about trying to be a normie

Hearty kek

Ever since I internalized that all emotions are just transient bodily sensations, via reading the Ashtavakra Gita, I just lost interest in accomplishing things. Mere existence gives enough pleasant sensation to last a lifetime, there is no need to run around trying to accomplish this or that, nothing is needed to be liberated, but thinking oneself free.

>You are a sense chaser.
No, I just don't defend the avoidant lifestyle. Being pverly sensitive is no virtue.

> He thinks Dosto is about trying to be a normie
I make no such claim. You chose to refute the least important part of what I said. If that isn't excuse-making, nothing is.

It's worthwhile to ask why you were attracted to that work in the first place.

Do you avoid money because you're just going to eventually need to spend it?

While a man of pure intelligence may achieve the goal by the most casual of instruction, another may seek knowledge all his life and still remain bewildered. 15.1

Liberation is distaste for the objects of the senses. Bondage is love of the senses. This is knowledge. Now do as you wish. 15.2

This awareness of the truth makes an eloquent, clever and energetic man dumb, stupid and lazy, so it is avoided by those whose aim is enjoyment. 15.3

You are not the body, nor is the body yours, nor are you the doer of actions or the reaper of their consequences. You are eternally pure consciousness, the witness, in need of nothing — so live happily. 15.4

Desire and anger are objects of the mind, but the mind is not yours, nor ever has been. You are choiceless awareness itself and unchanging — so live happily. 15.5

Do you get it? You don't need a 'life' and frens. You also don't need to reject those.

No. I'm lucky enough that I can enjoy myself while gaining a sufficient income (programmer). I wouldn't work hard for money. Indeed, I only work hard when my boss or a client is pissed at me, lol.

I wouldn't say I was attracted to that work, someone just posted it here, I read it, and it clicked immediately.

> excuse making

I just don't see a point to accomplishing anything. I am lazy, and walk around like an idiot. I just realized I don't need much. Eventually, everyone chooses to become satiated with what they get, otherwise, everyone would be trying to have a harem of 10/10s and be a billionaire, and say things like '"I'm gonna kill himself if I'm not famous when I'm 30", as Tim Ferriss once did. You don't have any obligations in this life.

Anyway, I just wanted to show a different take on IMPROOVING, one far more ancient and superior to contemporary desire chasing.

>we each begin our posts with "No", like some sort of two year old

Looks like it's time to shake hands and part ways. Be seeing you

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