Personal growth and development is a myth

Personal growth and development is a myth.

You're the same person your whole life, you only change in superficial ways. An anxious person will always be anxious, a loud rowdy person will always be loud and rowdy, a lazy person will always be lazy.

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Complete bullshit, but alright.

Not true. I used to be shy and neurotic. I'd frequently have panic attacks for what seemed like no reason. Now most people find me outgoing and I don't feel much anxiety about anything at all.

So what did you do?

Can't be denied

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Nothing really. Circumstance forced me to get out more and I just matured. It was extremely difficult at first but I learned quickly how adaptable people can be. I was NEET for some time before that so I thought I was stuck in my ways and it would take years to learn to function like a normal person. Happened surprisingly fast, though.

>Nothing really
So how can you say you changed?

If you did nothing differently then you were always this person.

I wasn't actively trying to better myself but it's not that I didn't do anything differently. My whole life changed and consequently so did I. I always had the potential to be the person I am now, obviously, but these days I don't have much in common with my younger self.

>I wasn't actively trying to better myself but it's not that I didn't do anything differently
You were put in a situation and acclimatised. That's all.

You didn't change.

Well what do you consider change? Because my personality traits are virtually nothing like what they used to be.

>had a burger king binge last night and felt shit; really need to stop the fast food; it's like fuelling a car with dogshit
>wake up today at 8.30 am after 6 hours of sleep
>browse internet on phone in bed for almost two hours
>try to get back to sleep but can't
>browse internet, drink coffee, do chores
>go to gym and I'm way too fucking tired to do anything but light cardio
>go in to central London to walk around a bit
>walk in central central London and I'm saddened after seeing so many Staceys
>go to British museum and in front there's a qt (possibly Stacey) (white) girl handing out leaflets as the old Chinese Falun Gong woman watches her with a clipboard
>walk around museum, see old shit
>go walking through Tottenham court road and it's a dash of gentrified buildings, a dash of happy students everywhere, and a pinch of hipster; i.e., it demoralised me
>go for my usual walk (I walked for 5 miles today in total)
>now drinking coffee

I've been saddened by the sight of many Staceys and qts today. And many Chad and Stacey couples, who look at me like I'm a worm.

In the morning it felt like summer but it was already dark before 8 pm so summer is well and truly over.

I opened a savings account and put money in it and it's not leaving the account unless I have some sort of emergency. If I had learned that habit even 3 years ago, I'd be rich compared to now.

Do you think it's worth having a weekend retail job for extra money even if I have a full time job? I would save more money but my free time and dignity would be obliterated. I am really indecisive about this.

I randomly googled "discrete maths bsc" and read the curriculum for it on a university website. This stuff is like wizardry compared to the dull shit I did.

I have never been in a type-A environment. Not an elite university or workplace with high performers.

I went to a London taco bell last week and it was good and cheap. KFC is always soggy. Burger king is overpriced and McDonalds is mostly bland now.

I know this is bullshit because I've changes personally. I find people who hold this POV are always basement dwelling losers who:
1. Never try to change themselves
2. Don't interact with people much thus rarely get to see change in people.

>Well what do you consider change?
A human being who couldn't sing at all restructuring their vocals cords through sheer effort to be able to sing in tune.

Wow, the people who don't believe in the delusion of personal growth don't care about pretending to have personal growth or hang around people who also pretend to have personal growth...

Shocking...

i was in the same situation but through some kind of miracle i got a relationship with someone i love and the panic and shyness is slowly fading away. i am sure it will never be truly gone but at least i have more selfrespect now.

Take 6 grams of mushrooms and think about your flaws.

No, you fucking moron.

I possess the ability to introspect, I don't need to send my brain on a psychedelic trip to become comfortable enough to point out my own flaws. Just go sit in the corner and let the grown ups talk.

Take 6 grams of mushrooms and think about your flaws.

What a moronic take, it's the people who wallow in their self pity about how life is so unfair to them who refuse to try and change things. They don't have any freinds so they don't see any development.

People don't take this point seriously because they've expierenced growth and they can see people like you for the pathetic sniveling whimps which they are.

>it's the people who wallow in their self pity about how life is so unfair to them who refuse to try and change things
Some, not all. Don't just assume everyone with an opinion has an identical life.
>They don't have any freinds so they don't see any development.
I have friends and their "developments" doesn't intrigue me at all, I've known them for years, I know they're still the same people underneath the front they put up

Take 6 grams of mushrooms and think about your flaws.

you're trapped in your own mind-maze friend
no one can convince you that you're wrong because your own twisted and fucked up circular reasoning deludes you into thinking that changing yourself is impossible, regardless of how obvious the concept of personal growth seems to be to most other people
Honestly, the shit you're talking about just seems like a cowardly self-justification for not trying

unironically might be a good call if all other attempts at changing yourself are failing
I'd say it's only worth it as a last-ditch effort though
as psychoactive drugs like this can seriously alter your personality

All they do is permanently make you more open and that is a good thing.

I'm not saying everyone changes, but to think no one can is ridiculous. Most people get more "mature" (being able to take on responsibility) even if unwillingly, it usually happens to some degree when younger people are introduced into their life which they need to look after. That's a somewhat small change which happens to almost everyone.

I use to be a clown when I was younger, now I'm unable to clown around openly becasue I realised even if you willingly make yourself the joke, as a joke, people will see you as the joke. It always annoyed me because I thought people should be able to see that I'm playing a character, but I wasn't skilled enough to make that clear. I still clown around in my mind to amuse myself, but I know that if I want to be taken seriously that I cannot show it to others. That's personal growth. You can argue it's still within me, but I control that aspect of me in a different way now.

what a fuckin cop-out, what so changes aren't real if it doesn't suit you to acknowledge them then? how the hell is that fair?

Op will always be a faggot

>You didn't change bro you adapted
Are you fucking retarded?

You admit here that you have no life experience yet you claim to be some expert. Retard.

Oh is it lol
Open-mindedness without deliberate rigor of thought is a toxic rabbit-hole populated by hippies and wokesters

Oh no, I'm not being used as a tool by people above me, how terrible

>I possess the ability to introspect
Clearly you don't.

His environment changed, he didn't. If you sit in a wheelchair for years despite being able to walk and then one day your wheelchair is destroyed and you're forced to walk, does that mean you changed? You always possessed the ability to walk, you just never used it so it atrophied. Same is true of that user and his social skills.

>You admit here that you have no life experience
Where did I say that? Point it out. What even is "life experience"? I'm alive, I'm experiencing life. I don't need to be an oversocialised delusional idiot to say I have life experience.

So I guess we're all just Mr. Everything?