Are there any books that address uncontrollable sexual urges?
I am a Christian man with a long time gf. I have a crazy sex drive. I’m not promiscuous, very loyal, but i have urges for sex as often as I do to eat. It’s always very hardcore. Two or three times a day. It’s gotten to the point where my gf has accused me of feeling like she is be raped by me. My relationship with God has been very helpful. I also enjoy reading and writing poetry as it allows me to feel more human and less like an animal. Playing the piano calms me down too. I love my gf and I don’t want her to feel like she is being molested. I’m seeing a sex therapist but I was wondering if there are any books to address this?
>Girlfriend >Having sex Enjoy your eternal damnation, adulterer.
Caleb Perry
The Bible
Levi Murphy
>I am a Christian man with a long time gf Found the source of your problem, bud. You gotta marry her already. How long are we talking here? A year? If it's been a year and you haven't proposed you need to get on that.
Cooper Gonzalez
>my gf has accused me of feeling like she is be raped by me. are you sure she dislikes this
Elijah Powell
Don't know about books but perhaps it could be good for you to talk about it to your girlfriend, too, and listen to what she'd prefer you do in bed. Learn some personal discipline and try to find ways to let go of your own selfishness.
Blake Price
She orgasms everytime. But we both agree that there is something not right about doing it so frequently. There are times where she will be into it, sometime though she is really tired and she just lays there, but there are other times where she starts crying. Just because she orgasms doesn’t make it ok.. I am not ok with the way I am. I feel a lot shame and guilt. She deserves better. I don’t want to hurt her
Josiah Jones
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Does she ever say no? Or is she afraid to? Look at her body language: if she's crying she clearly doesn't want it and you should try to respect her will and just have sex less. No offense but you genuinely seem addicted and it could strain your relationship greatly.
Angel Taylor
Just get married. It'll ruin your sex drive entirely.
Jeremiah Gray
Yeah, disastrous love affairs never happen
Mason Lopez
Yes she has, in the past I would just plead and plead until she gave in but now I don’t do that and respect when she says no. I very much love her and care about her. She has suggested I have sex with other people but I know she doesn’t want that. I don’t want to hurt her or anyone and I don’t like being like this. It makes me really sad and sometimes i really hate myself. I cry about it a lot. I feel like there’s something wrong with me, that I can’t be myself. I hate people who are sex obsessed and hate that culture so much. But I can’t really be around people I like, like good people, in fear they will come to know me and then think of me as some sort of pervert. I feel really alone and scared. And yet I am to blame.
Joseph Phillips
try De Sade
Carter Watson
Youre clearly a sex addict, I have no idea how people deal with, therapy probably.
Jason Wright
sleep with other people senpai
Wyatt Wright
Therapy unironically sounds like a good idea
Leo Butler
Not sure what you mean. I was just pointing out how utterly absurd the post sounded.
Nathan Rogers
That is normal for a young man. Dating and having a girlfriend is wrong, Christian saints in antiquity said young people should no be mixed together of opposite sex, alone two being alone together, as it certainly will lead to fornication.
You should marry and havr children. If you wish to control your apetites more, then fast and read your holy book and pray to God, may He be glorified and exalted, at regular, scheduled times.
Book that adresses this at one point is the Divine Comedy
Leo Sanders
I can't really think of what treatment they could possibly give him other than something like this user said
Asher Moore
>She has suggested I have sex with other people
This sloot is not wife material, and you’re a fake Christian for staying with her
Cameron Lopez
they could just give him a prescription that makes him impotent
John Sanchez
>having sex outside of marriage The absolute state of modern "christians".
Tyler Brooks
Do you masturbate?
Andrew Cruz
Young people have always done this if society gives them sufficient opportunity and temptation, it has nothing to do with Christians of today being weaker in will
Jayden Miller
Ah that sounds like it sucks, but he does seem to really care about his gf, so I bet he'd be willing to give it a shot.
Jack Williams
yes western society fully accepts this behavior and gives them plenty of opportunity to be sluts but if these people who consider themselves Christians wanted to actually be Christians they would resist. They're hypocrites and weak willed imo.
An unhealthy cult like all the rest. Not as bad as pushing the priests and nuns, but they've got their problems.
Nathaniel Martin
Anything that reduces sexuality is not inherently unhealthy.
It is only unhealthy if they are viciously nontolerant of others. :3
Nathaniel Taylor
>pic related are actual Christians These people are not given extensive opportunity or temptation by their society. Christian introducing the sanctioning of girlfriends (lovers) and dating (unsupervised courtship) was what brought theie crisis about
Carter Campbell
Have you considered cigarettes? They lower sex drive
Cooper Torres
My advice? If you're watching porn stop now. If you're part of a traditional liturgical church; go to confession. If not; find someone you trust and talk to them about your problem. Seek counsel and therapy as well, I'm no psychiatrist, but there's a chance that you could have a disorder. I'm not saying that you do, but it might explain what's going on.
Dominic Wilson
>These people are not given extensive opportunity or temptation by their society. That's true, these communities are usually pretty isolated (for obvious reasons).
Christianity (outside of the more radical sects, most of whom live in North America) has been diluted (lovers and unsupervised courtship are good examples) to the point where it has become just meaningless worship, like the pagans of antiquity. Even the right wing simply consider Christianity a symbol of western civilization but not something to truly live by.
Thomas Harris
Believe me, there are plenty of cases where men in these colonies rape women dressed like that. And interesting little fact about hutterite and Amish colonies: unlike monastic communities they're not celibate. So they have families, but eventually they run into the problem of incest and inbreeding. In my area there's a little Hush Hush thing going on where the elders pay men to come and "diversify the gene pool"
Benjamin Foster
Yes, they need to come into the modern age and join the rest of our great society. They should become drunken fools like the rest of us
Didn’t say this world was healthy either now did I
Joseph Gonzalez
It does not help that you do not have religious laws. The Qur'an says 100 lashes for fornication, this is Sharia, but liberal Christians will say that is barbaric and unchristian
Dylan Scott
>In my area there's a little Hush Hush thing going on where the elders pay men to come and "diversify the gene pool" Maybe you shouldn't believe rumors you hear in the bar, these people have converts and have high enough population where that wouldn't be a problem.
But obviously you have a problem with Anabaptists who actually follow their religion, why?
Landon Lewis
These aren't bar rumours and I don't have any problems with Anabaptists. It's a real thing that happens on our local hutterite colonies.
Jacob Evans
Why would they pay them?
Austin Campbell
If what you say is true and this community is at a risk of inbreeding because of a low population, what makes you think these people who have already given up the comforts of modern life for their beliefs would then pay random men to come and impregnate their women. why not just contact other Anabaptist communities for help? Use your critical thinking skills.
Nolan Bailey
My guess is enticement/hush money. People around here don't usually think much of hutterites. And it would look really bad on them for getting these guys to do that. The point I was trying to make though, is that no church is perfect. Every one of them has issues, fetishizing or idolising a denomination is a bad idea.
Jonathan Martin
>People around here don't usually think much of hutterites. Do they also make Matzo with children's blood?
Wyatt Nelson
OP you are a hypocrite for having sex outside of marriage but there is a point to be made about the church's prudish morals. Even thought I converted to Gnosticism I still get pangs of guilt whenever I masturbate, stupid Catholic upbringing
>No group of people is perfect True, and your wild story could very well be true. However this attitude of believing that highly principled, morally disciplined societies are fulled with secret degeneracy. That the members of these societies would jump at the chance to live like your average westerner isn't true. For example the common attitude in the west is that Muslim women who wear the niqab are forced or are brainwashed. They just can't wrap their heads around them doing it simply out of moral obligation.
Megan Boyle talks about a kind of "rage" that strikes her when she seems a pretty woman wearing shoes. She's apparently so stricken in that situation she's been known to pull the shoes off unwitting commuters, bar patrons and her girlfriends. Does that count?
Pic related will cure your urges, user. You are made a slave to your unruly passions and as a result you can't even think straight. I can barely remember what it was like to have such burning desires, thanks to God, but it took a long time to get better and there were many stumbles. is also a great resource that will help a lot. Don't cohabitate. Don't even hold hands or snuggle. Get off Yea Forums. Avoid any sort of ludeness like the plague, desires turn to action. Go to mass weekly, go to confession weekly, pray the rosary daily, and be in a constant state of prayer. Good luck, user.
You should feel that guilt, retard, you are violating the natural law and making yourself a slave to your passions.
Matthew Allen
Don't listen to these wretched people, user. See . There is a way out of this and believe me it is far greater. Unfortunately it will get worse before it gets better. I have made myself sick many times because of the sexual things I have done. I have gone to the confessional many times for the same sin, I've even shed tears over it. But it will get better. Do not fear your past, I hang out with good Catholics and we all have a past but we all are on the same road now. But you have to become Catholic in order to do it, as the Catholic Church is the source and font of all graces. Without these graces we are capable of nothing. Believe me when I say this, user, I'll be praying for you.
Easton Russell
Great Bait
William Cruz
As everyone else is implying, you have not given enough context and important information on yourself.
Have you been fapping for years? Are you into extreme fetish/wapanese ultra-hentai? Have you been promiscuous with your fellow adulterer for many years now? Each of those could explain your "inexplicable" urges.
David Hall
>Christian >premarital sex Ouch. Learn to be celibate or marry her. I would recommend you transmute the energy, as it truly is a gift, but you seem like a simpleton
Julian Brown
>cum into thread expecting sex addict banging it 8+ times a day >3 times a day Is this just a lot by Christfag standards or am I also a potential sex addict? When I do see my current partner We fuck 2-3 times just laying in bed for a few hours the morning after.
Where does Jesus say not to have premarital sex?
Robert Collins
It's good you're seeing a therapist. Is it a pure sexual urge, or are there fetishes associated with it. In other words, are you turned on by anything in particular or is it just an ambiguous sexual drive?
