Film recommendation

Destroy everything, forget about her. She obviously moved on. Do the same.
This is a decent film but depressing imo.

>when I needed her

Needing a women is the ultimate repellent never lean on them for anything. You have to support yourself.

Yes, i guess so.

Yes now after wasting 4 years with her, i know. But how to get over it?

Bump

Sorry to hear that bro. Hearing stories like this fucked me up from getting into something long term. The idea of investing so much time into someone just to separate from them and never see them again is terrifying

god I wish we would hurry up and be annihilated by nuclear fire

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You may never get over it. Especially if you keep blaming her calling her "not who you thought she was". Reconciliation is key. Widowers tend to die soon after their wives pass because the depression it sends them into can't be terminated due to the fact that the person is no longer alive so "reconciliation" is impossible. It's the one thing I learned at this crazy cult called the Landmark Forum that really does work (I found out first hand). It may be a crazy cult, but it draws on real science. You always always reconcile with your exes, because if you truly loved them, as you say you do, this will affect your whole life in a negative and pernicious way. I was clinically diagnosed with depression which did not lift until I finally forgave the affront in question. Do yourself a favor. Try to find a way to really understand the person you loved and why they would behave in the certain ways that they do.

I swear to God this happens in 90% of the cases, happened to me too. While being sad about your break up after a 1+year relationship, the whore is already being fucked by another guy and she loves it.

Like seriously, I'm not a women-hating incel, but why is it so much easier for them to move on, shouldn't they have similar feelings to us, we're all humans goddamn it

Also, Gone Girl

They can move on more easily because their attachment is never as strong. Outside of doing drugs, you will experience your highest highs AND your lowest lows when you are in love.

It's a tactical strategy by women, fueled by men. Women usually have 3 guys that are ready to fuck them or even get into a relationship with them. You can even see it on here, all the betas that pine and obsess over some slut online. So naturally when a woman finds herself free of a man she has a stable of guys ready. Men tend to be more loyal.

She knows what she has done, she even admitted that it was her fault to a mutual friend. She just doesn't give a fuck or it seems like she doesn't.

Perhaps she has brain damage. This is not her fault. They probably dropped her as a baby. Again, not her fault. Think of it in those terms, it might be easier. Blaming her for anything is not helping YOUR mental health. You're just fucking yourself over.

Yes, i tried to actually break up in friendly terms but she didn't listen then and mostly had retarded snarky comments. So i just let it there. I won't write her again, but what to do?

Why did you think it was just a meme? ALL women are whores, ALL

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Seems you left it in a bad place. That's why you're still obsessing. As long as you are angry, even a little bit, you will be in this bad place indefinitely, and it will affect your life in subtle but real ways. You have to KNOW that she KNOWS that you're not angry with her anymore. That you let it all go and that it's water under the bridge. Just do that and limit communication preferably entirely after that.

I actually did say that i'm not angry and i did tell her good luck etc. She even refused to shake my hand. The problem i have is what to do with all the items she gave, should i just throw it out and also delete all our pictures?

Take this waltz
Blue valentine?

Blue Valentine is top tier relationship drama study, but I'm not sure OP is mentally ready for it

He's struggling with getting rid of his attachments to his ex. The bitch is gone and he's still tearing himself apart about what to do with the pictures. Dude needs a dude's night out and to just let it go already. Healing will take time, sure. But you gotta start by letting it go.
Both movies will fuck him up. He might as well also watch Submarine, Eternal Sunshine, Punch-Drunk Love, and Like Crazy.

In my experience, try to "force" yourself to forget by physically eliminating reminders only helps a little. Yes, the reminders might be gone, prompting you to think about the person less, but unless you're sorted internally, you will continue to think about it anyway.

Yes but i have to start somewhere.

Yeah Eternal Sunshine just shines a spotlight on the problem in question, but doesn't offer any answers aside from the sci-fi "solution".

Like I said, it might help a little. It's not a bad idea, you may as well do it. But it won't solve the underlying problem, most likely. Try it. Why not?

Just bee yourself, OP.

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Alright, i have to start to do something.
I'm being myself.

I say remove everything. After a month or two you will have your first breakfast, not thinking her.. your first shower, not thinking of her.

Having items in your face that remind you of her definitely won't help. Also if you're following her on Instagram/Facebook at least hide her posts or just unfollow. It won't fix your feelings but trust me, it's better

Thanks, i will start with that.

The problem is "simply" attachment. It doesn't have to be a good or bad experience. Just an experience that happened (like 500 days) and is now over. At some point it clicks that "oh yeah, of course I don't want to get back with her. That would be a terrible idea." and then you get on with your life. There will be times you miss the intimacy and sharing special moments. But that's not reality, it's fucking dopamine getting you high and you're just jonesing fucking hard. So you appreciate the good and just keep going one step at a time. Dwelling on it just keeps you stuck. These are all recs to help give that sense of catharsis necessary to make it through another day. Because by the end you'll be exhausted and hopefully WANT to let it remain in the past instead of carrying that weight.

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Me again, about that Instagram thing. After me and the girl that we dated for a year broke up, about 3 weeks later because I was dumb enough to stalk her on Instagram I saw she and this guy were commenting "playful" stuff on their pictures.

I unironically was having INSTAGRAM NIGHTMARES, one night I literally woke up at 3-4 am from my INSTAGRAM NIGHTMARE to check their Instagram bios and pictures for new comments. This is the moment I knew I just have to unfollow the cunt. When you have no access to certain information you sleep easier.

Well, i don't have nightmares yet. I hope it won't get to that.

Thanks, this is actually a solid advice. I will try to go step by step.

Holy based.