Realistically, is there other reason for you not having a gf other than simple lack of effort on your own part?

Yeah pretty much. I’m extremely insular and even though I can function socially and hold down a job, I can’t fathom having somebody around constantly requiring attention and effort.

Females don’t bring much to the table these days, and the quality of time wasting vidya and tv shows/films has exponentially increased since a generation ago.

Living with your parents is not a good reason

Yes.
I grew up with wrong ideas, made many mistakes, and I believe lies.
As a result I'm a 39 year old virgin.
Emotionally and mature wise I'm a 15 year old, possibly even less.
Ask me anything.

Cripplingly low self esteem, combined with not wanting to settle for anything lower than a 6/10.

Going to go to the Gym as soon as I get out of work.

I'm ugly and fat

I've had relationships, they're exhausting and overrated. Nowadays I prefer jacking off in a fleshlight to some quality hentai. At least I'm happy with my life.

the couple ones i had treated me like shit because i was too beta. if i was an alpha i couldn't picture myself happy either because they cheat and they don't seem to care about being cheated either.

>be 18
>get the guts to ask a girl on a date (we had been grouped up in a project and so I was basically forced to talk to her, the only girl I spoke to during my entire time at university)
>she accepts
>go to restaurant
>accidentally accept waiter's offer of bottled, expensive water
>girl tells me that was a mistake, get embarrassed
>hand is literally shaking a I pour the water into the glasses
>hand continues to shake uncontrollably for the rest of the dinner
>also become unable to bend my neck (?)
>to drink, I have to take minute sips contort my neck slightly
>girl is just politely making conversation that I'm barely following
>finish half my meal (a lasagna), get the cheque, leave
>extremely uncomfortable atmosphere, barely make eye contact
>say goodbye, no hug or anything
>avoid her from then on
>slowly transition from that, to just being on hi terms, to just being on nodding terms, to ignoring each other
didn't have another date, let alone get anywhere with any woman, for another 8 years.

>Living with your parents is not a good reason
It's a pretty good reason because if you still live with your parents in adulthood and you are economically dependent on them then you are going nowhere with your life and no self respecting woman will see you as a potential mate and father of her children.

>cripplingly low self esteem
>not willing to settle
sounds like you're just a lazy pussy trying to make excuses

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because I'm married.

>settle for anything lower than a 6/10
That's good though.
If she isn't a virgin and under 25 she ain't worth it.

The risk/reward makes it not worthwhile under today's circumstances.
>tfw too smart to get gf

>Emotionally and mature wise I'm a 15 year old,
Oh user, that just means you're on even ground with women. Start attending church and meet up with lonely religious broads. You're just as fucked up as anyone else.

you failed once and gave up. that's pretty sad.

Agoraphobe here. I struggle to do most normal things. Every outing is some kind of exam to me in terms of stress. I manage, I shop often, but sometimes I fail. I try to buy shoes and since I rarely buy shoes, I don't know the places well, so it's hard, and sometimes I fail.

To meet women, I'd have to date online, and this seems completely impossible to me, so I am stuck.

I have been in 3 relationships, one last for 8 years, and women generally like me a lot. I have many degrees and I make good amounts of money, and I want a family, but because of my problems, I will never be able to find a soulmate again.

>Realistically, is there other reason for you not having a gf
Because I'm a girl and I have a bf
I'm lying, I'm not a femanon, don't answer

zero confidence

Why would she wear clothes that expose her breasts and then try to cover them with her hands?

>114506822
bro...

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autist detected

I once spent weeks building up the courage to ask a girl out in highschool. I approached her when she was walking to the bus, said her name, she turns around, scowls, and continues walking on without saying a word. Stupid but it shattered my confidence and I never bothered with females from then on.

I had at least 120 first dates over the last 7 years and the best I've had was a 2-month gf. At some point you just lose track.

I try and will keep trying, it's just very hard to find the right person.

why not hire a nice escort?

>Start attending church and meet up with lonely religious broads
I will once I find a job and live my parents basement.
They are very judgemental and extremely atheists and I'd rather not explain to them why I go to church and volunteer there.

39 year old and never had sex? You are the stuff of legends, I have a few questions

1. Do you feel like killing yourself?
2. Do you often think about the missed chances?
3. Why not get a prostitute?
4. How bad was your upbringing?
5. What's your worst attribute? Ugly? Boring?
6. Do people know you are a virgin? Do they mention anything? Do you think people can tell you are a virgin when you talk to them?
7. Have you ever tried?
8. How bad is the rest of your life?

Nah, I just don't care enough to try.

Correct, but at least I'm honest.

>why not hire a nice escort?
Parents basement and what's the point?
I'd still have to explain to parents where I went.
Until I leave the basement I can't do anything, things are weird with parents, they are more delusional than me and they are unholy mix or far-right and far-left /pol/ but irl.

Kek maintaining that flashlight every sunday and scrubbing dried cum out with your fingers must feel incredibly happy and life-fullfiling.

Sour fucking grapes

There's a server at a restaurant I go to who looks like Daddario's younger, flatter sister.

Yes. I unironically dislike women. I'm attracted to them physically, but they're genuinely disgusting and deplorable human beings. Me getting my shit together would only make getting laid ez mode, but it wouldn't change the underlying problem. That is, women are garbage.
>inb4 have sex
been there done that, it doesn't change anything

Not really. That's pretty much it.

probably feels at least as good as when you walk in on your wife fucking a stranger, realizing at that moment that you no longer have a house, access to your kids or half your paycheck.
Must feel really satisfying knowing that 50% of the money you work for is going to go straight to her semen habit.

same boat

I have avoidant personality disorder which has btfo my chance of being happy

I'm 50 pounds overweight and I only lust for skinny girls. I don't feel worthy of a sticc girl when I look like Jabba The Hutt.

I have money and a house, coworkers and friends prod me to HAVE SEX but I'm ashamed of myself when I look in the mirror. If I didn't give a fuck I know I could get someone but I do.

If I'm 30 and still can't manage my weight I'm gonna get my stomach stapled.

At what point did you realize you have this
Are you getting help for this
Is this a meme disorder or is it something people won't laugh at you for bringing up

Well then the issue is that you're dependent on your parents. If you're working then you just have extra date money because you don't pay rent.
Stay positive user.

Not that user, but I'm a 29 year old kissless virgin with extra time so I'll answer

>1. Do you feel like killing yourself?
Not at all.
>2. Do you often think about the missed chances?
Not often, but I do.
>3. Why not get a prostitute?
You can't kiss a prostitute.
>4. How bad was your upbringing?
Not at all, great parents, decent siblings, normal childhood.
>5. What's your worst attribute? Ugly? Boring?
Extremely passive. I just don't leave my room that much.
>6. Do people know you are a virgin? Do they mention anything? Do you think people can tell you are a virgin when you talk to them?
Most people no, my family probably yeah. No one ever mentions anything about the virginity directly, just about getting a wife. Most randoms don't have a clue, but anyone who knows me any longer period surely notices it because I never talk about any relationships or women in general.
>7. Have you ever tried?
Not really.
>8. How bad is the rest of your life?
It's pretty good. Got my own apartment, steady job and a productive hobby that might even replace my daily job some day.

The only girls that I am are attracted to are way out of my league. inb4 lower your standards. I can't force myself to be physicaly attracted to someone.

I learned the hard way that you have to clean it out after every use. My first fleshlight grew moldy cumfungus on it, wasn't appealing. I'm not sour though, I know plenty of married fucks who are utterly miserable whilst I feel content with my lifestyle.

not him but yes it's cringe. it's also not a sentence, if you want to become less anxious you have to force yourself into situations. anxiety is the body's negative response to desire and every time you let it win and avoid your desires you reaffirm its existence.

Can't pick up on social ques.

the notion of actualy sucessfuly picking up a girl seems about as realistic and possible as the notion of flying off a building superman style, i can imagine it but everything i know about reality tells me ill just fall

i stll try tho, when im drunk enough i just do it out of frustration, the constant rejections only cement the belief that it is not possible

>39 year old and never had sex? You are the stuff of legends, I have a few questions
Legendary failure.
>1. Do you feel like killing yourself?
Yes, I stopped standing at the edge of the underground because I don't trust me anymore.
>2. Do you often think about the missed chances?
Yes, I walk alone and speak loudly to me and move my hands.
>3. Why not get a prostitute?
Already answered >4. How bad was your upbringing?
I was the easy kid, obedient, best student, always grateful, never asking for anything.
This stopped my growth and due to a weird mix of atheism, far-right, feminism, far-left, etc I got really messed up.
>5. What's your worst attribute? Ugly? Boring?
No self esteem, no confidence, pessimism, overanalyzing everything.
>6. Do people know you are a virgin? Do they mention anything? Do you think people can tell you are a virgin when you talk to them?
Parents behave like I'm not a virgin and I'll bring a girl (delusional).
I don't really have friends, maybe they suspect, never told them.
>7. Have you ever tried?
A gf? Yes, I even went to a cinema.
I had some mild successes the last 4 years but ended in ghosting (understandably).
>8. How bad is the rest of your life?
Awful, but it can and will get worse.

based. they are so ugly inside.

>was in two relationships and even got my own place with one of them
>turns out it's really fucking annoying and boring to spend more than two months with a female under the same roof and in the same bed
>started cheating three months in because why the fuck not
>not even almost daily pusy available on demand is worth it all the nagging, bitching and waste of my own personal time
I do still sometimes have one night stands with drunk cunts, but it's just less time consuming to pay an escort. Plus they're legal here.
Long term gfs aren't worth it if you're the type of dude who spends three hours on Yea Forums and then three more playing vidyia or watching kino every evening.

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Yup. I've never met one that didn't harbor an ugly, shrieking soul hidden under an external facade.

>if you want to become less anxious you have to force yourself into situations
Doesnt work like that with avoidant personality disorder. Look it up. It's not just regular garden variety anxiety like butterflies in the stomach or shaky hands.

>>accidentally accept waiter's offer of bottled, expensive water
>>girl tells me that was a mistake, get embarrassed
>>hand is literally shaking a I pour the water into the glasses
>>hand continues to shake uncontrollably for the rest of the dinner
>>also become unable to bend my neck (?)
Kek

I live with my parents. I pay their gas, electricity and cable bill.
They didn't ask me to but it is nice not to be a burden. There is a separate entrance to my room from outside and none of the girls I have been with have had any issues.
As long as you have a good job and don't act like a NEET, girls don't complain much about these issues.
Move out only when you are actually serious about a girl. There is no need to move out just for the sake of moving out. Use that rent you'd pay someone else to help your parents.

lift hard. worst case scenario, you'll be on bear mode. like a strong fuck with a big belly. not the worst look.

no, I've had several but I'm currently actively avoiding relationships

there are cute prostitutes you can kiss. they won't really love you, but you can both still have lots of fun.

>No self esteem, no confidence, pessimism, overanalyzing everything.
Are you doing anything about this? Have you ever been on medication or therapy?

>Awful, but it can and will get worse.
Could you expand on this?

What was the point of no return for you?

It's not impossible to overcome a tough childhood if you try. I've been working on this issue for 5 years and I'm a lot better in social situations. If you don't want to try then don't bother, but having a personality disorder is excellent if you can fix it, it makes you a stronger and more interesting person.

>kissing prostitutes
that's not a good idea

I have been on a steady diet of fucking tinder girls for like years now, but I can’t connect with any of them. Dating in your late 20s is a nightmare, it’s all so empty.

The one girl I actually really liked recently was just coming off a breakup and was fairly explicit about basically just wanting to add me to a pantheon of cock she was curating, even had a “no-sleepover” rule. Very upsetting.

So I basically came away from that deciding to stop drinking for a while and to start running and working out every day. Women are a distraction. If we can work on ourselves, the women will come to us eventually. Tinder and casual dating are destructive and a waste of time.

I understand user.

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I'm gay

>Extremely passive
that's a very nice way of saying "boring"

>Are you doing anything about this?
Looking for a job.
Went to some interviews but failed, not because I lacked knowledge and qualifications but because no confidence that turns off people.
I'm going to start looking for jobs for unqualified workers, just need enough to rent a shithole.
No money now.
>Have you ever been on medication or therapy?
Therapy, once, it helped me then but realistically it can't help me anymore if I don't have money and rent a place and leave parents place.
>Awful, but it can and will get worse.
>Could you expand on this?
I believe I'm a sinner because I wasted my life.
This is my punishment.
Things are getting worse.
There are too many things to mention.
>What was the point of no return for you?
End of 2018, start of 2019.
2018 was hard, many things went wrong and got punched a lot but kept going.
End 2018 all got tumbling down.
2019 is a non stop rape and it's getting worse.

>I don't feel worthy of a sticc girl when I look like Jabba The Hutt.
Why not? Jabba had one.

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I know user, I've read the sticky and that's what I'm doing now. I don't know if I'll make it (only down a scant 10 lbs) but I'm trying.

I think the most important thing is to just focus on the present itself. Not tommorow, not next week, not one commiserate in misery. Fat slobs like me need to just take satisfaction in simply doing a good job of taking care of ourselves. Self pity and indulgences get you nowhere.

>even had a “no-sleepover” rule.
this was when i realized women don't give a fuck and never trust anything they tell you, but rather trust what they DO. i had a girl develop feelings for me AFTER she kicked me out of her apartment after i fucked her good and then she had the nerve to act like i was "the typical guy" not wanting anything to do with her dumb ass afterwards.

I dont really particually want one any more.

I like being alone.

I live alone, i have my hobbys, go to work, go to the gym, earn good money.

I have a nice flat, like my space and like having my time as my own. I like living on my own terms.

I occasionally will go out with friends and fuck some club slut. But i've only ever had one gf and she was boring and ended up cheating on me. It really wasnt that great at all. I function better solo. With a gf i feel like i constantly have to talk to her and do things and it was mentally exhausting.

I live at home stress free. Having a gf gives me no advantage. I can do my own dishes/cooking , look after my own stuff and can get an escort or fuck a club slut if i get horny. If i want to speak to someone because muh companionship i have friends and family for that.

Having a leech suck most of my energy, resources and time away does not seem that appealing to me. I have time to do things i enjoy.

Pic related. Its a lil aquarium i built last week. It has shrimp and some minnow in it. Im moving the minnow to a bigger tank this week.

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Yes even though I am a decent looking man that grooms, women go for the chad characteristics.

It does not help that I am also picky myself.

You can, stop jerking to porn and your standards will lower so much youll fuck a dog

>What was the point of no return for you?
2018/2019 was the point where I realized my mistake.
Until then I thought I was ok, I was delusional.
I believe my mistakes go way back, like first grade of elementary school.
Let's say the point of no return was 18 when I went to university where I should either enlist in the army or learn a craft like mechanic, carpenter, builder.
A big mistake was when I was 23 and I had a job and an income I listened to my parents and stayed with them instead of renting a place.

Nice lil tank there bro

Too self aware

I'm borderline schizoid and the way I deal with having to socialize is that I started thinking of people as something of less value than trash. Like, imagine you have a pet hamster or whatever, and you're talking to it. Do you fucking care if it thinks your jokes are funny, or whether your remarks are witty? No you fucking don't. That's the way I think of other people.

What's keeping you from being the best version of you?

Or

What's keeping you from ending it all?

Because my wife would disapprove of me having a girlfriend.

I'm fat

>What's keeping you from being the best version of you?
No job.
Without job, no money.
Without money, no place of my own to get a little independent and mature to explore what I can do with me.
>What's keeping you from ending it all?
No job.
Without job, no money.
Without money no place to rent, buy rope, get wasted and hang myself to death.

I should find a job.

I know right?

Because seriously I see my current face in the mirror and I think of myself as a fucking drug addict but cheap unhealthy food is my drug. And it leaves me sick, depressed, and miserable.

And I have too much empathy to want to make a girl hang around a guy with a giant beer gut. I feel I need to get this shit in control or else I'm gonna die 3 decades earlier than I should.

The thing that makes me loathe myself the most is the fact that it isn't hard. Keep my total carbs under 50 grams a day and eat meat and lean veggies. Fat fucks like me have no excuse.

You want to know how I look, think Fat Thor in Avengers with maybe 30 more pounds around the waste. Or a non bald Tony Soprano. Gross.